Children's mental health

Supporting Your Child and Yourself

If you struggle with stress or anxiety as a parent, you're certainly not alone. According to the Mental Health Foundation, approximately 68% of women and 57% of men experiencing mental health difficulties are also parents. This highlights just how important it is that we, as parents and carers, look after our own wellbeing in order to better support our children.

Looking after your own mental health isn’t just about self-care—it also helps to create a calm, resilient environment for your child. Here are some practical tips that can help you navigate the daily challenges of parenthood, for your benefit and theirs.

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4 Tips for Supporting Your Own Mental Health as a Parent

Lead by example. When you take care of yourself—physically, mentally, and emotionally—you show your child how to do the same. No matter their age, children absorb the values and behaviours they see in you.
Be open about your feelings. Talk to your children about your emotions and encourage them to do the same. Labelling feelings and discussing them openly can help normalise the experience of ups and downs.
Practise and share positive coping techniques. Whether it’s taking a few deep breaths, stepping outside for fresh air, or taking a quiet five minutes to yourself, acknowledge your needs and talk to your child about how these moments help you reset.
Be kind to yourself in difficult moments. One of the most common concerns among parents—especially those of toddlers—is managing their own reactions to challenging behaviour. Remember, this is a normal stage of development and it’s okay to find it hard sometimes.

Practical Tips for the Toddler Years

The toddler years can be particularly demanding, both emotionally and physically. Here are a few strategies to support both you and your child during this phase:

Respect nap times (and your own sleep). Tiredness affects everyone’s mood and behaviour, no matter their age. Prioritising rest helps prevent irritability and promotes emotional regulation.
Create a predictable routine. Structure and consistency help toddlers feel secure and provide natural cues for eating, sleeping, and play. It also makes day-to-day life more manageable for parents.
Understand that tantrums are normal. These emotional outbursts are a typical part of development. Try to remind yourself that it’s a phase—and one that every family goes through.

3 Ways to Nurture Your Child’s Mental Wellbeing

In 2019, the NSPCC reported that nearly half (45%) of all Childline counselling sessions were related to emotional and mental health concerns. Supporting your child’s emotional development from an early age helps lay the foundation for long-term wellbeing.

Be available and listen. Make time to talk, and let your child know it’s safe to share how they’re feeling. Encourage openness and reassure them that emotions—good or bad—are normal and valid.
Validate their emotions. Take what your child says seriously. Acknowledge their feelings, even if you don’t fully understand or agree with their perspective.
Encourage healthy habits and routines. Plenty of sleep, nutritious meals, outdoor time, and physical activity all contribute to better mental health—for children and adults alike.

If you or your child are experiencing difficulties with mental health, we recommend speaking with your GP to explore any underlying issues and access the right support. You can also book an appointment with our Childhealthy team for advice tailored to your family’s needs.